|Mirror Confrontation: Like this, but with a full length mirror (flip-flops optional).|
Thanks to MaleFeminist for posting this beautiful image!
|The term "Body Exposure" reminds me of this Kate Upton SI cover. Don't get me started!|
Here is an example of a precise and neutral description:
"I have straight blonde hair, brown eyes, and a mole under my right nostril." (all true!)Here is an example of a subjective and negative statement:
"Oh, and I also have a rounded belly that sticks out a little bit." (true again.)
"I am a big fat ugly unloveable loser." (see the difference?)Over time, and with repetition, "mirror confrontation"will help you view your body - and the different parts of your body - as neutral facts rather than as subjective signifiers of your moral character and/or entire identity!
|How would SHE/HE/IT describe your body?|
(1) SOMETIMES it helps to imagine yourself as a curious and judgment free child. Alternatively I like pretending that I am a space alien visiting Earth with abolutely no sense of cultural mores about attractiveness. (Oooh! Oooh! How about "curious and judgement free alien child"?? I digress...)
(2) IF a subjective and negative judgement pops into your head during this activity, write it down, followed by a neutral and precise statement you can use to challenge that thought the next time it shows up! (For bonus points, I like adding, "and who the hell cares anyway?!?" at the end of the neutral statements, i.e. "I have a rounded belly that sticks out a little bit and who the hell cares anyway?!?" Try it.)
Okay, so now go for it!
Let me know what you think.
For those of you who try it once, would you do it again?
Anyone willing to share their notes?